• 2020,  Healing,  November,  Spirituality

    Letting Go of Life’s Baggage

    We all carry baggage around. We get taught early on to hold onto our wounds as a sign of pride. They become battle scars that we show off to our friends. The ego’s need to say, “Look what I’ve been through.” or better yet, “I’ve been through more than you.” is one reason why people do this. The need to carry the pain around with us to show how strong we are is only one of the reasons people hang onto things. Another reason is that people beat themselves up with it. They carry around all this stuff and frequently pick it up and smack themselves with it, reminding themselves of how awful they are, what they could have, should have, would have done better and why they don’t deserve to have nice things. In some sense, this keeps them safe. It also keeps them stuck. They don’t go after what they want because they don’t feel worthy of it. They don’t allow themselves to have those nice things because they may not be able to handle them properly once they have it. The analogy I use for each painful experience or thing we think we did wrong is a box. Each box contains the pain and the memories from each experience. Every time we relive that experience it’s like we open the box and root through it. When we open the box we look at all the pictures, we feel the pain, we read the letters, and we admire…

  • 2020,  November

    Finding Common Ground in Division

    We are divided these days. The divide has been growing over the last few years. I suppose it was always there in some form, although not as obvious as it is now. The crack has grown and the ability to leap from one side to the other has become increasingly difficult. People on both sides vehemently defend their viewpoints, often doing so using profanity, name-calling and threats. The egos’ need to defend itself is on full display right now. One doesn’t have to scroll far on social media to find evidence of the division in all its’ glory. The question is, how do we navigate such turbulent waters and come together as a people? Those aren’t easy answers. We can’t make people see things our way. Name-calling, threats, and violence only drive people to dig into their stance further. Convincing anybody of our truth regardless of what it is about becomes wasted breath. People will project their own fears and beliefs onto us because that’s what people tend to do. The solution to that projection, however, is doing the internal work and healing ourselves. It is through healing that we can begin to consciously recognize our own triggers and beliefs. This allows us to be conscious of when we’re trying to project those onto others and stop ourselves from doing it in the first place. It’s not a perfect system, we’re all human and imperfect, but it certainly helps if we can allow people to have their viewpoints without the…