Many of us still need permission from something or someone outside of ourselves in order to move forward. This comes from a place of not trusting or believing in our own authority to make decisions about our own lives.
Once we've decided we don't like where we are, we can get to a place of villainizing, getting mad at, or getting frustrated with where we are. While that might be a good catalyst for propelling ourselves forward, we can't stay in that pain and anger too long. It becomes unhealthy after a while.