• 2021,  Change,  Healing,  Spirituality

    The Invisible Cage

    The saying goes that happiness is an inside job. What does that mean? Regardless of what's going on around us we have the power to be happy in the moment. That isn't necessarily an easy thing to do, but the recognition of the possibility of it is an important first step.

  • 2021,  February,  Paid Blog

    Seeing Trauma That Isn’t There

    This happens all the time in life. We look at a situation and it reminds us of some trauma that we’ve experienced in our own life. Because of that tiny little reminder, we immediately assume certain things about the situation that may not be true. At it’s most basic level, this is just perception in action. This is the proof that our perception colors how we see things. If there is something about a situation that is triggering for us, we will see that situation a certain way because of that trigger. If we’re not triggered by that situation, we’re sometimes able to see things a little more clearly, which makes our perception quite different from the one that was triggered. This is how we see trauma that isn’t there. No matter how benign that trigger on its’ own may have been, we immediately see red and it stops us in our tracks. We can run from everything this way because that trigger creates the fight or flight response and we choose to fly. This can become quite a difficult pattern to break. It’s even harder to see for the person in the pattern. Recognizing that we’re being triggered by the people and things around us to such a degree that it becomes unhealthy, takes a lot of self-awareness. Getting out of this pattern means first recognizing it’s there, and then second, stopping ourselves long enough to take a second look at things. Is my perspective correct right now? Is...…