Life is messy, very messy. We spend our lives on this planet learning how to interact with others and remembering that we are all from the same stardust.
Our first teachers about intimate relationships are our parents. For most of us we learn versions of people pleasing and making people happy. Some of us may learn about unhealthy relationships, codependency and abuse. We learn to determine how to feel about ourselves from how others feel about us. We learn to judge and be judged. We learn to stay small to keep people comfortable. We learn to be the person our parents expect us to be.
The truth is our parents, for the most part, simply do the best they can with what they know. They aren’t intentionally trying to harm or hurt us in most cases. They are simply walking this planet with a set of wounds they unconsciously pass on to their children. It is nothing more than a lack of personal awareness that sets up these common scenarios.
Awakening brings forth the personal awareness. It sort of comes with the territory. Depending on when we awaken, we either have the ability to open our children up to the same experience of awareness or not. We either pass on our own wounds or become aware of them and end the cycle. The journey of life determines the order of operations for each of us.
Personally, I have a 16 year old who is a psychic, intuitive, empath and a 9 year old who has also found his intuitive ability. I have the opportunity to share with them what I’m learning and what I know. I also have the awareness to be able to create a very different relationship with my children from the one I have with my mother.
My mother is asleep. She is wounded, very wounded and blames the entire world for her life. She watches CNN all day, which helps make sure she stays asleep.
I had to come to grips early on, with the idea that I would not be able to save nor wake up those around me. It is their journey and their path only. It is not for me to determine the outcome of their lives.
It is for me to forgive and let go of any hurt or pain I may have accumulated through these relationships, whether in this life or others. I compare those wounds to rocks we pick up along a path. We are not meant to be rock collectors and carry heavy loads. We are meant to look at, examine and let go of everything that we come across.
Put down the rocks you are carrying. They are heavy and unnecessary. That is the challenge for all of us. We have rocks we know about from this lifetime and rocks we don’t from previous lifetimes. Find them and put them down. They are not meant to be carried. Learn the lessons and move forward without the rocks.
Love to all.