It would have been easy to trap myself in my own awareness, to feel guilty even for acting on my own intuition because the appearance of that intuition in the outside world isn't so great. I've said before that hurting people is sometimes an aligned event. It happens because the Universe puts people in our path to help us achieve our goals. Sometimes those people get put there to get hurt, not because the Universe wants to hurt them, but because they need that pain for their own growth and you're just providing it.
We all do it, meaning to reply to a text or an email and then forgetting, only to remember many days or weeks later. It brings up a feeling of guilt and shame. We feel bad for not replying. Somehow somewhere in society we've been taught that not responding immediately is bad. But it is?
Self-victimization is a form of ego protection. It's the ego and the voice in our heads, making us victims of the people and things around us in order to keep us safe. If we never get into a relationship again we don't have to worry about getting hurt. If we never get off the couch we can't stub our toe again. If we just stop talking to everybody, nobody can disappoint us anymore. There is safety in walling ourselves off from life, or at least that's how the ego would like us to see it. But we know that this isn't realistic. We can't live life like that. So what do we do? To access this post, please purchase a subscription
There are a number of spiritual truths that we learn over time on this path. They are mostly idealistic ways of being because the human simply isn't capable of living fully within them while remaining engaged in society. No matter how good they get in one way or another, there will always be something to work on.
If you've never had a love relationship flip your entire world, your perspective, your thoughts and beliefs on their heads, while it can be painful, I hope you experience it because it is one of the most profound experiences of my life. To access this post, please purchase a subscription
The saying goes that happiness is an inside job. What does that mean? Regardless of what's going on around us we have the power to be happy in the moment. That isn't necessarily an easy thing to do, but the recognition of the possibility of it is an important first step.
Many people create lives where there are a lot of hidden things going on behind the scenes that others don't see. How many people do we each know that have skeletons hidden in the proverbial closet?
I wouldn't do what I've done for just anybody. Not everybody gets to go on this journey and that's okay. There is no martyrdom here. I didn't sacrifice myself. I did what I needed to do. I took care of me while working to right a relationship that had become broken. To access this post, please purchase a subscription
Having no expectations doesn't mean we put up with everything other people do. It doesn't mean we're doormats. That's now how this works. Putting up with everything other people do is self-victimization. Having no expectations is empowering. Let me explain. To access this post, please purchase a subscription
We all have one of these, whether we're aware of who they are or not. Sometimes they incarnate with us into human forms and become family or friends in our human lives. Sometimes they remain in spirit form, assisting us from the astral realm. Either way, we all have a spirit or soul family that surrounds us at all times.