When you make choices, you send an energetic wave out into the Universe. It doesn't matter how big or small that choice is, the energetic wave is the same. That is powerful energy that you, as a human being, are projecting out into the world. What you do with that energy in terms of how you feel about the choice that you made, makes a big difference to what happens as a result of that choice.
We can only see things from our own level of perception. What that means is that we're usually missing something. We can't feel what others feel all the time. We don't know every tiny little detail of the situation. Our judgement will always be skewed in one direction or the other based on our own experience. There is nothing wrong with that. Guiding other people using that judgment means we can limit the experience of another and unintentionally hurt them.
Most of us are as stable as broken rocking chairs. There is nothing wrong with that. It's possible to sit in a broken rocking chair and retain our sense of balance. It's not about whether or not the rocking chair is broken or fixable, it's about how we choose to see it. How do you see the chair you're on right now? Is it broken? Is it better than having no chair? Do you want a new chair?
When we talk about manifesting anything, we hear the same phrases and ideas being tossed around. It's this idea that if I ask for what I want and I believe I can have it, that it will come. That is true. On a really basic level, that is true. But for anybody that's ever struggled with manifesting anything, we know there's more to it.
There is a saying in spiritual circles that "You are only one decision away from a new life". This is true, but it's not nearly as instant as this makes it seem. The trick to creating that new life is staying with your original decision. You can decide to believe in yourself, you can even do that one minute to the next if you allow it, but it can take time for the results of that decision to show up. In that time, fear, anxiety, and worry also have a tendency to show up.
We all get here at some point. I wrote a blog for my subscribers yesterday about hitting a plateau and wondering what to do next. The message I gave them was not to push. Don't struggle against it because once we start struggling, we tend to create more reasons to struggle. That's not helpful!
Emotions are created by our thoughts. Emotions are not random. They don't show up "just because". They show up because of the thoughts we think and the script that plays in our heads. If we learn to manage our thoughts, we automatically gain control over how we feel. Contemplating emotions will actually send us down a rabbit hole of more emotion. We get swept in the tide of how we feel and it's really hard to come back from that. This is why when we're trying to heal from past events, it's really important to try to stay out of the emotion of it. We can't control a tidal wave. We have to control the thinking around it.
I've taken some risks over the years to be in business for myself. I've avoided taking a full-time job even when most of the world would probably tell me getting a job was a good idea because financial disaster was imminent or occurring. My credit rating is well, awful, there is no savings or retirement plan and we live pretty much paycheck to paycheck. We are that family that is a $300 problem away from homelessness. It sounds tragic, doesn't it? It's not.
This happens to all of us. We have expectations of other people and they don't live up to them. Sometimes the expectations can be as simple as a family member taking out the garbage. But sometimes the stakes are a little higher and the expectations a little bigger like revealing personal secrets or keeping a date. Whatever the expectation was, it went unmet and now there are hurt feelings and a problem to solve. But what's the answer?
There are many of us out there who are unhappy with our realities. We are wanting change in our lives, we may or may not know how to create that change. Maybe we feel stuck in our current realities. We look at what is going on around us and we’re frustrated by systems and circumstances. Social media is becoming a giant mine field of information and disinformation. People are arguing with each other all over the place. Nobody seems to want to listen to each other. 2020 is the gift that keeps on giving with one thing after another this year. The world seems to be a gigantic train wreck waiting to happen and nobody seems to have any idea how to slow it down. Now what? Let’s start with the basics. The first thing to do is to figure out what’s yours and what’s not. Not everything that’s happening around you affects you directly. You get to decide what you take on and what you don’t. It’s a choice. Just because it’s put in front of you doesn’t mean you have to pick it up. Reacting and responding is a choice. Choose wisely. Second, stop arguing with what is. The system is what it is. I think most of us reading this can agree that it needs to change. We may not agree on how it needs to change and that’s okay. The truth is the more we argue with what is, the more of what is we get,…