Expectations are judgements we have about other people to do or not do something based on what we believe about them in that moment. Expectations frequently get broken in the human experience because people are not perfect beings. They simply can't, nor should they be expected to, live up to some high expectations we might have of them. The higher our expectations, often the more likely we are to be hurt by those around us.
I tell you all of this because I want you to see the power of your dreams. I want you to see the power that you have to create things that are far beyond anything you can imagine in the moment. But the trick to all of it is trust. As convoluted as the last few years have been for me, I had to trust that eventually I would get to where I needed to go. Even though most of the work that I did had nothing to do, at least as far as I could tell, with the relationship I was trying to get back, I followed it anyway. I've continued to follow it, no matter how messed up it gets, because I know that I will get to where I want to go and it will be better than anything I could ever have hoped for. To access this post, you must purchase Monthly Blog Access, 1 Month of Private Coaching, One-Month Private Coaching, 3-Month Private Coaching Package, Three-Month Private Coaching, 6-Months Private Coaching Package, Six-Month Private Coaching, 12-Months Private Coaching Package, Twelve Month Private Coaching or Yearly Blog Subscription.
Sometimes in life, we go through things that we don't understand. Either the choice we made didn't turn out quite the way we planned or we end up somewhere we didn't really expect. (Just yell, "Plot twist!" when this happens and keep going!) Sometimes after a bad relationship, we think those months or years were a waste of time. But whatever the reason, it's easy to look around after the experience and wonder what the point was.
Some days are easier than others. We know this. Right now I'm trying to create new patterns and let go of old ones that sabotaged me. I'm trying to write more consistently and communicate my story and the lessons I've learned more often. I'm trying not to hide.