Find People That Support Your Journey

What if we don’t have to take on other people’s bullshit? What if we can live the life we want without worrying about what other people think or believe about what we’re doing? What if this idea that we should take on the advice of everybody around us is wrong? What if the only truth that’s real for us as individuals is our own truth? What if the truth of other people doesn’t really matter?

All of that sounds quite selfish and a little egotistical, doesn’t it? I get it, but I’d ask you to keep reading because there is something important to find in those questions, which is that people project their pain onto others. Did you ever notice that when somebody has a bad experience with something, doesn’t matter what it is, they will ward everybody they meet off of that experience? Why do they do that? Because they are projecting from their level of experience.

They assume that if they have had a bad experience, that everybody else will too. But that’s not true. For every person that has had a bad experience, there is another that has had a good experience. I can find both. Neither perception is wrong. Both are true to those individuals. Which one I choose to take on is now up to me. If the experience is one that I choose to have, I can take on the perception of the person that enjoyed the experience and get a lot of positive reinforcement and probably some good advice. If I don’t want to have the experience or I want to be talked out of it, I can take on the perception of the person that had the bad experience and I will get told how awful it is and that I shouldn’t do it. Which one I listen to is entirely based on whether I understand that people project their own pain and experiences or not.

The ability to have a bad experience with something and then still turn around and tell somebody else to go ahead and try it is awareness. It’s the understanding that just because I had a bad experience, it doesn’t mean you will too. My truth is not necessarily going to be your truth. That’s the way it is meant to be because everybody’s truth is meant to be different. We are not meant to all be the same.

There are over 7 billion people on this planet and there are over 7 billion versions of the truth on every topic imaginable. We can often find common ground. We can often find people that agree with our truth more or less, but there are still slight variations between every person out there. This is why I say frequently, that trying to gain agreement is an impossible task. If having a functioning society requires agreement among all the people within that society, we will never have a functional society. We have to find a better way.

What is that better way? Allowing everybody to have their own truth their own way, with no need to change or fix it, and with the understanding that we don’t have to take their truth on as our own. We can, in fact, just leave each other alone.

So, next time you want to go skydiving and you ask somebody what they think and they tell you not to, remember that just because they wouldn’t do it doesn’t mean you can’t. It doesn’t make it wrong. It doesn’t make it bad. It’s their truth and they are entitled to it. Leave them alone and go find somebody that will support you in your adventure. Do that with everything you want to do in your life. Always find people that will support you on your journey, no matter what it is.

Love to all.

Laura

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