Today the challenge is to focus on what has changed instead of what hasn't. It's easy to focus on what hasn't changed yet. That's the human way, focus on the trouble and hang out in that space. But it doesn't help a whole lot and it definitely won't get us to where we want to go. So, I want to use this blog to talk about what has changed that isn't necessarily visible to everybody.
The emotion distracts you from moving forward. It keeps you in the loop and makes you think you can't do what you want to do. What if that isn't true? What if the emotion is just part of the lie you're telling yourself that says you can't move forward?
. I'm semi-arguing with my confidence and trying to understand how this all works. I'm working through it in stages. Stage one was on Friday. I posted this big long thing on social media about my sheer lack of confidence and asked for help. I did have a few people respond to my request and I sincerely thank you for that.
If the system doesn't collapse this time, there will simply be more interruptions until it does. The goal is to change the old black and white, right and wrong way of doing things into something that is far less rigid and structured. The goal for the individual is to deal with the fear of change and to simply allow their lives to shift. Adaptation is going to be a critical skill for anybody that wants to get through this reasonably smoothly. looks like.
I have to leap and the avoidance is real. Can you tell from my last paragraph? It's time to say goodbye to this old cycle. I've hung onto it long enough. 2022 will be completely new territory for me. A big chunk of it is just going to be watching things happen around me. It's not that I won't be busy writing and doing my thing, but there are a lot of things that will be happening that will be out of my control. I asked for this crazy mess, so I might as well get out of my own way and allow it.
The insecure side of me wants to ask for your opinion, but we're not going to go there. Clearly, that option is open on any blog, not just this one. But you see, that's the need to fit in, to make sure you're comfortable with what I'm putting out in the world. If you're not comfortable, then who reads this? Well, somebody else of course. But the mind likes to make up excuses about how if one person leaves, then everybody leaves and nobody will ever read another blog of mine again. Dramatic isn't it?
There is some truth in the saying, "be careful what you wish for, you might just get it". What you get may not be what you wanted at first, but it will be what you need in order to have what you want. These aren't roadblocks. They show up because they are trying to get out of your way. The only question is whether or not you allow them to leave. You allow them to leave by not preventing the experiences from happening. Don't do anything. Don't fix it. Just let it go. When you allow it to crumble, and you don't try to put it back together again, it makes room for the change that you do want.
Cycle breaking is something many people on the spiritual path end up doing, whether they do it consciously or not. Creating new ways of being, treating others differently than you were taught to treat them, doing something different with your life than you were expected to, or stopping cycles of abuse or addiction, plus many others. All of those are cycles and patterns that we can work to end.
ange and transition are scary. In this video, I'm talking about not only the fear of change but how to manage and use our energy to move forward, even when we're physically needing to do other things. It's possible.