We get into habits of thought around certain events and scenarios that happen in our lives on a regular basis. That habit of thought typically keeps us focused on the problems. By doing that we stay stuck in the problem.
reaking cycles is hard. It requires a lot of grounding and effort to let things fall that we used to fix. It requires a lot more work to let things drop than it does to keep them in the air. That's one of the reasons why people hold on to things because letting them go generates fear.