There's a lie in settling for something that you don't really want because you think it's what you can get in the moment. Settling is telling yourself nothing better is coming, you don't deserve what you want and there's no point in waiting to get it.
It's tough to balance the wants and needs of the people around us with our own wants and needs. We tend to prioritize other people over ourselves because we're taught to make other people happy first. Frequently we take ourselves off our own lists. Women do this more often than men as the demands of children, relationships and careers take priority over simple things like self-care.